How to Truly Overcome the Imposter Syndrome-It’s About More Than Self Confidence

And so it begins. The feeling that you’re not good enough. The realization that everyone will figure out what an imposter you are. This will be followed by complete shame and the horrifying observation of the look of scorn that will be worn on the disapproving faces around you when they all see what a fraud you are. Was it something you did? Was it something you said? Well, guess what? Who cares about others and what they think? You need to take care of yourself because no one else will. We don’t mean for you not to care about other people or that it’s ok to harm other people. Violence and unkindness is never encouraged under any circumstance. But what we want to focus on here is that the willing will become unwilling around you if you start acting in ways that they don’t approve of or acting in ways that threaten them. The most common way that people feel threatened and it’s not very often spoken about plainly is when they see someone in their circle succeeding. They may not feel threatened when they see someone in the media doing so and they may feel slight envy for a successful stranger. But concerning someone they know? Someone in their immediate surroundings who is more successful than them is seen as an immediate threat because it takes them out of their comfort zone. They can no longer appease themselves by saying: “Well, I’m doing so much better than everyone around me. I perceive myself as highly competent and this is reinforced by looking at those around me who I consider to not be doing as well as I am and so I feel better than them.”

There is nothing wrong with having these feelings because you are living a human experience and therefore, it is natural to have certain kinds of thoughts and feelings throughout your life. The challenge here is, or as they would say in corporate speak, the opportunity here is to recognize these feelings and thoughts within yourself, acknowledge them and then let them go. Do not take them into your being. Recognize them as simply what that they are and let them go. This includes the thoughts of feeling less than other people, judged by other people or thinking that we are better than some people and that they are the imposters and not us.

Yes, we can hear the arguments coming through of “Well, surely I’m better than those in maximum security prisons and on death row. Surely I’m better than those druggies shooting up in the parking lot down on the corner. And I’m surely better than that family who lives down the street that can’t even mow their lawn once a month and has started a junkyard collection in their backyard. Surely I am better than all of those people. Not to mention that I have a great job and a new car.” Bravo for all of these things that you have achieved and that made you feel good and proud! Your achievements are truly celebrated but your successes do not diminish the value of others. As for the people mentioned in the few examples described above, they have chosen to play a role in this lifetime of theirs in order to experience different things. One of the experiences they seek may be to be scorned and looked down upon by others so in that fact, you are fulfilling your role by giving them what they desire! But in this life, there is more to do than play roles. If you are a reader of this blog or a listener of this podcast, it means that you are seeking additional information and that you are open to receiving it. If you find this material interesting, it means you are desiring to wake up to new ideas and new ways of perceiving things. What we are trying to do here is guide you through this process. So we must say many things about people and their behaviors and perceptions. The things that we say are never in judgment for we are kind and compassionate observers who will also assist you if that would be something you ask us for and desire. Otherwise, we do not assist or interfere with anyone and remain kind and loving observers to you all.

Getting back to the point. The single most experience that every person on earth is seeking is expansion. It’s not about the roles you play out throughout your day. It’s not about cars or travel or money. It’s about the expansion of your perspective and the expansion of your soul’s evolution. Of course, in the pursuit of material things, you may be more free to travel and see and experience a vast variety of occurrences. But we would like to say to you is that even someone who has never even traveled to the next town can pursue and achieve more expansion than someone who has traveled to over forty countries and sailed all of the seven seas. It all depends on where that person’s state of mind is. If the state of mind is stuck in looking at the pond and having only shallow, material pursuits, their expansion will be less than someone who simply sits and observes, inquires and searches within themselves for answers instead of outside of themselves in the vast illusion that is the woven matrix covering your world.

There is nothing wrong with the person who travels or pursues outside of themselves. This may be the experience they want to have in this lifetime so let them do as they wish.  But if you are seeking further depth and expansion, know that you don’t need money or education or the approval of others to achieve it.  All you need is yourself and to learn to sit quietly with yourself and not be afraid to do that.  We know it’s not an easy thing to do.  We know that regrets, painful memories and trauma will come into your minds when you do this.  We know that you may feel loneliness and feel like you should be out at a party or with a group of friends dancing or continuously engaging with or seeking to find a significant other.  You are free to do all of these things but if it is expansion that you seek, then you must be brave and sit with yourself.  Start working on observing your thoughts and feelings of guilt, inadequacy, fears, etc.  Know that once you work through all of these issues as if peeling an onion, layer by layer, you will soon come upon your core.  Your core is the real you without the disapproval of yourself, without the judgment of yourself, without the fear of being yourself and of living this human life.  All that will remain is the pure you who is loved and precious and magnificent.

You are not an imposter in this life. You are not here to seek and achieve approval and admiration from others. You are here to be you and we say to you that you are all more than good enough and you have nothing to prove. You are all loved every minute of every day by many beyond the veil and most of all by All That Is. You are a part of the greatness of the universe and nothing is flawed in this universe though it may seem to be so from a human perspective. Continue to pursue your true greatness and leave behind the disapproval of yourself. It is not for you to judge yourself or to judge others. Turn your attention away from all of that. Sit with yourself, and observe the unkind thoughts you have of yourself. No matter how factual and based in reality they may seem to you, be brave and let them go. Start to approve of yourself no matter how much in shambles your life may seem from your perspective. We can guarantee you with a hundred percent certainty that you are not an imposter and that you are valuable. Your contributions of expansion that you create as you live your life are valuable and cherished by All That Is.